THE BENEFITS OF COACHING

If you have ever taken on a challenge of transformation you know exactly how disappointing motivation can be and how elusive discipline is. Everything is easy with motivation but as soon as it runs out the simplest of tasks requires discipline. Motivation is based on "want to" and when the going gets tough we stop wanting to do the work. That's when we begin to develop discipline to take action on want to, have to, and need to. It's easy to do what we like, hard to do what we dislike, and a struggle to do what we must. Hiring a coach can make a big difference.

Let's look at a simple example. After last year, most of us need to lose a few pounds (I know I do). We want the pounds to come off as easily as we change the channel on the television or eat another slice of pizza. We know we have to deprive ourselves and exert ourselves in strenuous physical activity. We might even have to change something we don't want to like our schedule, attitude, or viewpoint. To the degree that we can master these forces we can reach our goal and change ourselves in the process.

Do It Yourself

I have personally battled a mindset for getting things done for years. I call it the "do it yourself" mentality. It causes me to work only as quickly as I can do the work myself. It is reinforced by thinking, "I have more time than money." In the real world this means that whenever something breaks I feel an urge to fix it myself. With no experience, training, or help I have changed the engine in a car, remodeled a bathroom, finished a basement, built several websites, reupholstered a boat, cut down trees and a lot more before I learned my lesson. These projects did not turn out the way I hoped. They took twice as long, cost twice as much, and looked half as good as I wanted. I paid a high price and sometimes so did my family.

The cost of "do it yourself" for a substance abuse problem, marriage difficulties, or personal leadership issues can be very high. A coach helps you do the work properly and efficiently while supporting your efforts. This saves time, energy, heartache, and accelerates the achievements you really want in your life. Whether you have a coach or not you still get the credit for the accomplishment. The coach doesn't do the work for you, they help you get the work done more efficiently, with fewer problems, and in a way that fits just right for you.

Of all the things successful people do to become successful, participating in some kind of coaching program is at the top of the list. Most people who get counseling or coaching say they wish they had sought help years earlier. Even people who get divorced, report that several years after divorce they are able to see how counseling could have saved their marriage if they had only tried it sooner. So don't figure it out with the "do it yourself" approach; it will cost you twice as much, take twice as long, and be half of what you expect.

At Emerging Strength we offer tailor made solutions for you. We have flexible scheduling so it fits into daily life. It's up to you how often we meet and whether we meet online or in real life (IRL). I do three things really well: helping people win the fight of their lives, helping marriages touched by addiction, and helping people find their strength even when they don't feel strong.

Is it time to build a life you love?

Big List of Coaching Benefits

Here's a big list of coaching benefits. Let me reduce the list to its essence coaching can help you reach your goals by developing the discipline to do what you want to, have to, and need to, in order to live a life you love.

50+ coaching benefits:

plan, program, and design how to approach your specific goals
determine your values, vision, purpose, mission, and goals
clarify your identity, role, and tasks
evaluate and sort through opportunities and options
protect your family from your worst mistakes
stop repeating the same errors
keep your focus and accountability over the long term on top priorities
improve relationships
develop and maintain boundaries
balance work, life, and recovery
communicate effectively
identifying strengths
improve recovery
accountability for progress
learning from failure
practice self acceptance and self compassion
move with harmony in life
learn to trust yourself,
gain job, life, and personal satisfaction
contribute and add value to others
overcome or minimize obstacles, weaknesses, and short comings
improve decision making and critical thinking skills
manage energy and time effectively
reduce isolation, gain support, and work within a safe and trusting relationship
establish habits that are consistent with values, roles, and goals
put what you already know into action
move forward in life
focus on getting healthier in all things
create positive life changes
find new paths to explore
design next step actions
learn to accept and engage
deal effectively with resistance
realize your authentic self, strengths, and talents
prioritize and problem solve effectively
use tools as needed to build a life you love
strengthen recovery
become healthy and have healthy relationships
stop avoiding recovery with self sabotage and more treatment
manage triggers effectively
reprogram daily disciplines, thoughts, or emotional reactions
do difficult, fearful, and necessary things
get support
design your lifestyle on purpose
let go of limiting beliefs
improve your self image
see yourself doing recovery
face down anxiety, depression, and fear
develop strength to stand firm under pressure
repair and strengthen family bonds
achieve healthy independence
find acceptance, security, and significance
and much more